You Don’t Have to Get It “Right” In Your Parenting

Parenting is a huge responsibility (stating the obvious here). AND…

The more we become aware of our generational patterns and try to shift how we parent our kids, the heavier the responsibility can feel. It is a lot to carry, especially amidst the normal stressors of balancing work, parenthood, and life in general. 

As you pave the way towards a new vision for your parenting, it’s normal to notice the gap between your vision and the reality of where you are right now. 

While it’s important to face the real responsibility we carry in raising the next generation, we have to be mindful about not drowning in perfectionism and shame when we don’t get it “right.” 

We humans tend to focus more on the negative than the positive - of ourselves, our partners, our kids, and where we fail or get things “wrong.” This keeps us stuck in our patterns.

The way out of this is to practice presence and cultivate internal safety so we can lead with intentionality and move toward our vision. 

We move one step at a time. We get to be the leaders of our families, paving the way towards unconditional love. We are enough just as we are. We get to hold this anchor of enoughness - for ourselves, for our children, for our family, and perhaps even beyond… into the way we carry ourselves in the world. 

Lean into Trust

Pause right where you are and notice: 

• Where are you gripping and reaching for control with yourself and your kids? 
• Where are you leading your family from? A place of fear and shame and perfectionism?
• Where can you let go? Where can you add more lightness and certitude?

Take a deep breath, and let’s practice leaning into trust.

If you are near a mirror, look at yourself in it. Give yourself some loving eyes and a smile. You can place a hand on your heart if that feels good for you.

Then, say out loud: “I trust myself. I trust my kids. I trust us. We’ve got this.”

Trust that you are enough. Trust that your kids are enough. Trust that all is going to be okay. Breathe into that. Imagine the possibilities if we led our family from this place of trust and security. Every moment we take to practice or make a small shift is another step closer to our vision. We are in this together.